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Self-Mortification . by Alice B. Clagett

Written and published on 27 September 2017

Image: “Saint Nicholas and Krampus visit a child,” source  http://www.krampus-certi.cz/historie.html … created in the 1900s … in English Wikipedia … https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Krampus#/media/File:Mikul%C3%A1%C5%A1_a_Krampus_1900s.jpg … public domain

Image: “Saint Nicholas and Krampus visit a child,” source  http://www.krampus-certi.cz/historie.html … created in the 1900s … in English Wikipedia … https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Krampus#/media/File:Mikul%C3%A1%C5%A1_a_Krampus_1900s.jpg … public domain

Dear Ones,

This video is on the relative value of self-mortification and penance, as contrasted to chanting God’s name and doing good works. There is an edited Summary after the video …

It could be that the habit of self-mortification has to do with the experience of being strictly punished in childhood. The Krampus tradition commemorates this. This is a folkloric tradition to do with punishment of children who have been naughty by a fearful being, half goat and half devil, named Krampus, at Christmas … and presents for good children from Saint Nicholas.

This image ties the Krampus legend regarding strict discipline to rough sex …

Images: Sexual woman as demonic (showing her with horns); Krampus spanking beautiful, sparsely clad woman; Krampus – with chain and switch or broom, grabbing kneeling woman by the hair …  http://bh-s2.azureedge.net/bh-uploads/2015/12/Krampus_Triptych_03.jpg .. 



Hello, Dear Ones, It’s Alice. I Am of the Stars.

This is a little about the practice of self-mortification, or mortification of the flesh … flagellation of the flesh … that’s a theme in some of the religions of the world.

I just thought I’d explain that insult to the body cells … whether it be through self-mortification, or, say, from a physical accident or an auto accident … even falling down and scraping one’s knee in childhood … any kind of injury to the body cells, including interior injury, like, we might consume things, such as alcohol or recreational drugs, or different kinds of foods that are not appropriate for the optimum function of our bodies, and these foods might enter our cells as well, but especially external wounds like abrasions of the flesh, and broken bones, and so forth … but also internal wounds … things that we do to ourselves through the desire to fall asleep and not be aware, or to please our senses … for sense gratification, and so forth … that cause injury to the cells, cause them woe, these specific sites of injury to the physical cells … on the astral plane, these become landing sites for astral malware.

So then we become what they call ‘malwared up’. So in the process of evolution of the Soul, it becomes more and more important to treat the body as the temple of God’s grace … of what the Christians call ‘the Holy Spirit’.

And so we practice modulation of the diet, optimization of the food intake, and proper hydration. And in addition, we get plenty of rest … just as much as our body needs.

And as far as physical welfare is concerned, the last thing that we would think of is mortification of the flesh … because that decreases the joy in the body … the joy of the body cells. And it’s that joy that leads us onward to Soul evolution, and to the great discoveries of the truth of the nature of reality.

So my suggestion is, to set aside these techniques of self-mortification, and to look to diet and hydration and proper sleep. And then the result, during the ascension process, will be that there is far less emotional turmoil and mental turmoil. And far less physical difficulty than would otherwise be the case.

Just now, some people have asked me, on the astral plane, telepathically, why that is. Why should they not mortify the flesh? … since they’re subject to the Achilles heel effects of personality flaws, and of repeated habits that are very difficult … if not impossible … to overcome in physical form (such as child molestation, for instance).

Image: “Dying Achilles at Achilleion, Corfu,” Sculptor: Ernst Herter, 1884, from Wikimedia … https://commons.wikimedia.org/wiki/File:Detail_of_Achilles_thniskon.JPG …CC BY-SA 3.0

And so these people’s feeling is that, by mortification of the flesh, they can substitute tit for tat … They do something that they don’t approve of, and that they’re unable to prevent, because of personality flaws … and then they mortify the flesh by way of reparation. By way of making good with God. By way of penance.

So my suggestion is … for those that believe in the process of penance … and are unable to overcome it, because there are better ways to overcome bad habits … that if you believe in penance, you do good works, or you repeat sacred words, so as to change the constitution of the body of light away from the dark, and into the light. So that then we become less prone to bad habits. So we’re doing something good. We’re not punishing ourselves.

The notion of punishing ourselves, so as to make ourselves better, is, in itself, a very pernicious form of malware.

So you could say, in Christian terms, that I believe in grace; and in ascension terms, in the Incoming Light, and in the Eastern Indian philosophy of Hinduism, I believe in dharma.

Dharma is the the opposite of karma. It’s the pursuit of the ‘right path’. And the ‘right path’ might include chanting God’s name, doing good works … things of that nature. Dharma is walking the right path … which, in the Indian faiths, they say, is ‘as narrow as the edge of a razor’. It’s that carefully that we must consider our actions and our thought forms in order to walk the right path.

And this is in opposition to the concept of karma … tit for tat. Following the law of karma results in repetitions of the wheel of karma through the many reincarnations.

So, why do that? Why mortify the flesh? Why cause injury to ourselves, and why cause injury to others?

Also, in terms of the new DNA … the opening of the DNA of the body cells … As you know, love and joy and light are the nature of the universe; of all creation. And these are also the nature of the body cells.

Unless our body cells are bathed in the energies of love and light and joy, they can’t hold the new light, and the DNA cannot open from 2- to 12-strand.

So, for us to survive physically in the New Reality … in the new light of Earth … we must cherish and promote the qualities of love and light and joy in this physical form.

Every instant, let us consider: What is it that I must do now, to bathe my body cells in love and light and joy. You see? It requires constant awareness of our emotional state, and of physical discomfort, so that these may be alleviated. And so that the cells can return, suddenly, from damped-down-DNA holding of light, to the greater light that they’ve now become.

And this way we will keep our bodies and our emotions … all of our subtle bodies also … in tip-top form for many years to come.

You all take care.

In love, light and joy,
I Am of the Stars

Here is another image of Krampus …

Image: “A 1900s greeting card reading ‘Greetings from Krampus!’,” source: Historie čertů Krampus Uploaded by Kohelet … old card reading “Gruss vom Krampus” (“Greetings from Krampus”) … created 1900s … in English Wikipedia … https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Krampus#/media/File:Gruss_vom_Krampus.jpg … public domain

Image: “A 1900s greeting card reading ‘Greetings from Krampus!’,” source: Historie čertů Krampus Uploaded by Kohelet … old card reading “Gruss vom Krampus” (“Greetings from Krampus”) … created 1900s … in English Wikipedia … https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Krampus#/media/File:Gruss_vom_Krampus.jpg … public domain

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Alice’s Perilous Tales: The Nagging Wife . by Alice B. Clagett

Published on 31 July 2015; revised on 2 December 2018


Image: Black-and-white sketch of the head of a feral-looking woman, transforming in about four stages into the head of a hyena; from “The Hyena’s Daughter,” by Simon Roy … https://40.media.tumblr.com/8ba67ac8ab7a46cf3462a4c2059d7391/tumblr_inline_nm6un4Ep4X1qzcbft_540.jpg .. (1)

Dear Ones,

As you may know, I have been studying the Book of Revelation in the Bible. In chapter 1, there is quite a striking vision that John the Divine had on the Isle of Patma. Highlights …

10 “I was in the Spirit on the Lord’s day, and heard behind me a great voice, as of a trumpet …

12 “And I turned to see the voice that spake with me. And being turned, I saw seven golden candlesticks; …

16 “And he had in his right hand seven stars: and out of his mouth went a sharp two edged sword: and his countenance was as the sun shineth in his strength.” –Revelation 1, KJV (public domain)

I am guessing that this great and shining presence had a two-edged sword in his mouth because he had learned to counter a nagging wife. (Not really, just a humorous thought….) There is a lesson here. How can a man be strong and shining if he suffers a nagging wife, anyway? What can more wear down a man’s spirit than a scornful attitude in his one and only?


And what to do about it? If you speak up, she might kick you out. There is always that chance. And with some women, it is a sure and certain outcome of a man speaking up for himself and holding his own.

What can I say? Clearly, this woman must be physically exceptionally beautiful. Clearly, the husband must harbor some hint of a doubt that he will ever measure up.

And what if she does kick you out? Do you feel there is no one in the world like her? Or do you feel, like her, that you could walk right out that door and find the new love of your life waiting for you?

If you meet a wife’s scorn and derision with an open heart and that ‘sensitive man’ thing  … If, for instance, you say to her: When you nag me, I feel like curling up in a ball and crying … what will be her response? Being totally lacking in compassion and empathy, she will go for your jugular. For certain sure.


I saw on youtube just now a story about a husband whose wife was nagging him about a parking ticket. He ‘lost it’ and ‘acted out’ … which is to say, he ran over her. Twice. Then, leaving her body in the driveway, he went inside the house and took a nice, quiet nap.

What struck me most about the video was the smiles on the faces of the reporters who heard the story. They found it pretty funny.

Which, by my lights, points up the likelihood, in a nagged man, of acting out through violence, either toward his wife, or, if that is too scary, toward those he perceives as not so scary.

From this, I feel it is important to look for a solution to the nagging scenario, so that the urge to act out through violence will not crop up in the man’s subconscious over and over again. This will prevent social action against the man, in the form of a jail sentence or the like.

Men, it is important to understand that you are the wronged party in this instance. An abusive relationship is an abusive relationship, whether it is a man or a woman who is doing the abusing. The thing to do is to take the necessary steps to resolve the issue before violence occurs.


Here you are. For the sixth time today, she speaks to you with scorn and derision ringing in her voice … Or, and this is a favorite of the nagging woman, she speaks to your friends about you … typically, in your presence … with scorn and derision. What to do?

For sure, like meets like. If you counter with scorn and derision, that will stop her in her tracks. Tell her how much your friends dislike her for her nagging. Tell her she is the lowest of the low. Close your heart like hers is closed. At least the blood flow will stop. But will you have a marriage? I dunno.

Here is a clue: If you or your spouse want rough sex, what does that mean? It means one or the other of you, or both, has a habit of thinking cruelly towards love and the lover.

What to do, then? There is always the possibility of getting counselling. If you leave her before working on your own response mechanisms, you are going to run into the same problem again and again, probably with increasing ferocity, till the issue of your own response is solved. Which is ok, too.


That is just the way karma works. It is how Soul wounding gets resolved. God does this ‘ratchet up’ thing till we finally take notice, take action, and fix the hitch in our etheric net.

Keeping in mind, God is not a sadist. It is the lovers we attract into our lives who have that quality, when we have that ‘not worthy’, ‘not enough love in the world for me’ malware installed in the ether speak.

So God contrives this movie we call ‘reality’ … simply as a means of helping us clear our Souls of the wounding. God is love. God is the great healer.


Speaking of movies, there is a comic strip conjured up by a guy who clearly has the ‘nag me’ bug … “The Hyena’s Daughter” (story and art by Simon Roy). This is a story about a woman who horrifically transforms into a hyena (1) …

Image: black-and-white sketch of an Amazon-type woman walking along with a pack of hyenas, from “The Hyena’s Daughter,” by Simon Roy … https://41.media.tumblr.com/df923e619b4af841bf00f67181e371cc/tumblr_inline_nm6ul5P00R1qzcbft_540.jpg ..

Who needs this kind of story line? Here is one that is more fun … the first part is the part about rough sex and nagging. Then it presents some alternatives, such as … go figure! … compliments … ?!

Video: “Star Trek Funny Love Scenes,” by ZeroRamzes, 8 January 2008 … https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=M2IHx2Ts57E ..

Here is a song about a wife’s nagging habit …

Video: “The Nagging wife song – Belated Valentine – DJ Electro Swingable Mashup mix,” by ElectroSwingable, 12 February 2017 … https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bUCJrKI37V8 ..

Here is a lady named Dawndee … who strikes me as the epitome of the nagging personality (sorry, Dawndee!) … with her justification for nagging. Which I have heard from others…

Video: “Nag! Nag! Nag!” by DawndeeDALLAS, 7 July 2009 … https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UePc9-IELzM ..

The trouble I have with this is, who appointed her to be the person who figures out who should do what in the marriage? What about the guy’s ideas on what he wants from the woman? Where is his voice, telling her what he wants from her? I just do not get it!


Here is Jim Marshall, a professional counselor with a thought on ending the torture …

Video: “Relationship Advice – The Nagging Wife Solution,” by James Marshall, 15 August 2011 … https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TYyShopRAhQ ..

And here is another expert opinion …

Video: “How to Deal with a Nagging Wife,” by Full Frontal Fatherhood, 26 February 2016 … https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1PmQUP_50Cs ..

My thought is, this might be a good way to start. She probably thinks you never listen to her. So, prove that you are listening …

Here is Dr. Dar Hawks counselling on nagging …

Video: “Dr. Dar – Dealing with a nagging wife,” by Dr. Daw Hawks, 1 Jul y2011 … https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EddKmmCWNDE ..

Seems pretty similar: Listen … then clarify. Negotiate a timeline. It mentions how men retreat in the face of wifely trouble … How it might help to respond verbally instead. Especially to a woman’s expectation that You’re in love with me. You should know what I’m thinking. What??

So Dr. Dar says, when confronted with what she calls ‘nonspecificity’, a husband might try to get clarification. For example, he might ask: What’s going on with you? What can I do to help you feel better in this moment?


I have had my own unforgettable moments in the presence of a woman nagging her husband. Never before having had that experience … in my own significant other relationships or among my friendships, I was at a near total loss for words. However, I did finally (after multiple nagging wife syndrome exposures) cough up: I don’t think you should be mean to your husband like that. To which the response, the next day, was: Who are you to tell me howI should be with my husband? Dee ah duh … What do I say now?

So then on another occasion, I got together with them again. First thing, she said: By the way, my husband and I have talked it over, and we both agree, you don’t have any right to talk to me that way. Dee ah duh … What way? said I. To which she said: What I mean is, you have no right to tell me how to talk to my husband. He’s my husband. This has nothing to do with you.

I am speechless here. The wife is a nagging verbal abuser. The husband, by her account, agrees that this is his cup of tea. She thinks this has nothing to do with me.

What did I not say, here? I did not say: When I hear her cruel tongue, my heart shrinks to the size of a wizened walnut. And guys, if you hear this, just know it is not an invitation to renew our friendship. Not in the least. Cruelty is not my cup of tea.


And on the clair plane, not only did this woman for several years horrify me with hatred during the act of sex with her husband… This was not enough for her. She looked for a single woman, such as me, to torture on the clair plane during the day, when her husband is not readily at hand to be nagged.

So all day for several years, she tortured me with clair demands for sadomasochistic sexual daydreams … what she termed innocent ‘flirting’ … which is to say, cruel thoughts of sex. Then, during casual acts of sex-for-pay, she would imaging she was performing sadistic sexual acts with me. She being the sadist, and me the masochist.

Woman! Look this straight in the eye: You are a sex worker. Be with who you are with! If you cannot stand it, give it up.


To ante up, when the couple performed the act of sex, they would wait till I was asleep. Then as the wife poured her cruelty out into the husband’s open heart, he would try to snag my ‘desire elemental’ [see my blog category: Desire elementals ] … which is ever wakeful even when I am in dreamland … as a safe haven for his expression of sexual love.

The desire elemental has a limited intelligence. It has the will to survive. And an avid interest in desire. It can talk, too, on the clair plane, through the means of the intestinal neural network. And so, the husband has this recurring daydream, while having sex with what his unconscious mind conceives to be a ‘hyena woman’ … of having sex with me instead. Which he verifies through what he hears from my desire elemental while I am asleep.

Guy! I am not the person you are having sex with. I am not my desire elemental. It is just a little body elemental, a little thought form that zings in on the desire world. And you know very well, when I am wide awake, I change my own mind to a different thought train whenever you start to indulge in this daydream. Face the facts, and face your fears. Look the person you are with in the eye when you have sex. If you cannot stand it, find yourself someone else.


It’s not ‘rough sex’ you are dreaming of. It is sadomasochism.

It is not a variant of the norm. It is a samskara that you carry, a karmic miasmic distortion, a wounding of the Soul.

Outa my life, dudes! Deal with it. Horrify me no longer. If you want friends, check it out! … Open your hearts to a loving relationship with your spouse.


Video: “The Farmer’s Nagging Wife,” by Paul Clayton – Topic, 12 April 2014 … https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Q5NJ4H8IlE0 ..

In love, light and joy,
(well ok, less so at this moment)
I Am of the Stars

See also … Link: “Dylan Redwine Murder Mystery – Compendium: Child Torture for Snuff Film Industry?” by Alice B. Clagett, published on 22 February 2020; revised on 23 April 2020 … https://wp.me/p2Rkym-gz4 ..


(1) For more on For more on this, see …

Link: “The Refutation of the Primitive, and the Exaltation of the Fantastic in Simon Roy and Jason Wordie’s Tiger Lung,” by Sarah Horrocks, 2 April 2015 … https://mercurialblonde.wordpress.com/2015/04/02/the-refutation-of-the-primative-and-the-exaltation-of-the-fantastic-in-simon-roy-and-jason-wordies-tiger-lung/ ..


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