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Multitiming and Alternate Worlds . by Alice B. Clagett *

Filmed on 2 September 2015; published on 7 September 2015; transcribed on 28 June 2020

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Dear Ones,

Here is a seminal blog in which I coin the term ‘multitiming’. It seems the original blog has been lost, so I re-transcribed the video today. There is an edited Summary after the video …

VIDEO BY ALICE

SUMMARY OF THE VIDEO

Hello, Dear Ones, It’s Alice. I Am of the Stars.

I was thinking a little this morning about what I would call ‘multitiming’. We talk a lot about ‘multidiming’, but we do not talk about multitiming very much. I was started along this thought line while on the topic of appreciation, as opposed to getting snagged into relationship thinking … what might be termed ‘relational’ thinking.

In the old psychology, there is a list of needs …

Image: “Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs,” by J. Finkelstein, 27 October 2006, in Wikipedia … https://fi.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Tiedosto:Maslow%27s_hierarchy_of_needs.svg … CC BY-SA 3.0 … DESCRIPTION: A tiered pyramid. Starting from bottom: Red tier labeled ‘Physiological’: “breathing, food, water, sex, sleep, homeostasis, excretion”. Orange tier labeled ‘Safety’: “security of body, of employment, or resources, of morality, of the family, of health, of property”. Yellow tier labeled “Love/Belonging”: “friendship, family, sexual intimacy”. Green tier labeled “Self-Esteem”: “self-esteem, confidence, achievement, respect of others, respect by others”. Purple tier labeled “Self-actualization”: “morality, creativity, spontaneity, problem solving, lack of prejudice, acceptance of facts”.

Image: “Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs,” by J. Finkelstein, 27 October 2006, in Wikipedia … https://fi.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Tiedosto:Maslow%27s_hierarchy_of_needs.svg … CC BY-SA 3.0 … DESCRIPTION: A tiered pyramid. Starting from bottom: Red tier labeled ‘Physiological’: “breathing, food, water, sex, sleep, homeostasis, excretion”. Orange tier labeled ‘Safety’: “security of body, of employment, or resources, of morality, of the family, of health, of property”. Yellow tier labeled “Love/Belonging”: “friendship, family, sexual intimacy”. Green tier labeled “Self-Esteem”: “self-esteem, confidence, achievement, respect of others, respect by others”. Purple tier labeled “Self-actualization”: “morality, creativity, spontaneity, problem solving, lack of prejudice, acceptance of facts”.

One of the needs is the need to be loved. On the psychic plane, on the astral plane, today I ran into two things: One is the need for money, and that is the tier “Safety” or security. The other is: I need a relationship.

As the Ascension process unfolds, these needs that we feel are going to disappear completely. The whole thing about need-based psychology is going to just go by the wayside. But a lot of people believe, right now, that they need certain things. And so, over and over again in the noosphere are coming up these needs.

Need-based behavior has to do with left brain thinking … a specific aspect of left-brain thinking that views time as an unchangeable causeway … or asphalt road … of chain of cause and effect. That is one thing: The nature of time as an unchangeable asphalt roadway.

The other thing is relational thinking; that has to do with me proceeding along this causeway of time, connected by need to other objects along the way. So I am walking along this causeway. I am not singing a happy song. Instead, I am sending out energies of need towards what are perceived as objects in my environment.

So all the time my electromagnetic field is spinning off tendrils … like an octopus … tendrils of need that interfere with the structure and potential of my electromagnetic field.

I need to have this electromagnetic field intact, in order to accomplish all the things that are available to me as the Ascension goes on. That, in a nutshell, is why need-based behavior is going to disappear. But in the meantime, every time I experience the need for something, my electromagnetic (EMF) field mentally reaches out towards an object other than me.

In fact, because of the way the left brain operates, people perceive themselves as being in relationship with money, or a house, or a job, or a person, or a pet, or whatever, as a static situation.

We were talking about the spring tides and rafting or canoeing down a river, and seeing a snag on an island in the river, and reaching out for that snaggy branch. Then the canoe spins around and you are in danger of capsizing. You are taking on water because you have grabbed onto something, instead of going with the tide, with the stream of water going downstream.

Relational behavior is like that: It snags us on a little branch of a tree on an island sticking out in the flow of the Now. So we perceive ourselves as being in a static relationship with money, or with a person, or statically in search of a person that is missing … statically in search of money that is not there … always reaching out. We perceive that.

But that is not true. That is not the True Reality. Nor is the idea that time is an asphalt highway, a chain of cause and effect, true. Neither of these are true; not in the New Reality.

To get back to the topic of appreciation, I think this requires further definition. I feel that the thing to appreciate is not the thing for which we are reaching out or need, or that we wish we had, or that we fear we will lose.

So why not appreciate just an evanescent thing of the moment. For instance, I am looking around the house and I see a beautiful color of pink over here, in a little satchel. I appreciate that beautiful color. It is almost magenta. It is the most beautiful, satiny color. I appreciate that.

Here is another example: I am outside, and I notice the wind blowing through the tall grasses, the Autumn grasses. I see how the seeds are heavy and almost ripe. And I appreciate the way the wind blows through the grass. It is just a thing of the moment, but I appreciate it.

I do not have a relationship to the satchel. I do not have a relationship to the grass. But I see something evanescently present in the ever-flowing Now. And that is what I appreciate. I do not appreciate that I will see it tomorrow, because tomorrow the grass will be different, and the wind will be different.

So, escaping from need, I appreciate something that I see or I hear or I feel, just in this moment. The training for that is very good, because it is not a snaggy thing. It is an evanescent, momentary thing that appears to me in the flow of the Now.

To get back to this thing about greed; this was another thing that came up last night. In fact, I woke up with a nightmare about it. It is like you are canoeing down that river, in the Spring flood. You see boulders along the way; and you try to steer away from them … to get back into the flow of the thing, so that your canoe does not capsize.

You are going along, and you see a really cool boulder in the stream. It is really beautiful, and you want it. So you try to ease your canoe right up to it. Water is flowing, lickety-split, along on either side. You are in a precarious position. And you look at this rock.

This rock is called ‘Money’. And you really want this rock that is money. And so you try to keep your canoe right there, on the Money rock. But the tide is rising, and Spring is coming. Abundance is all around us. That rock is not abundance; abundance is in everything around us.

What I am saying is that true safety does not lie in money … in that thought of money. It lies in taking advantage of every opportunity that comes up around us. It is possible to ease that canoe off that rock and get right back into the flow of things; and sense, with gratitude, the little things around us. And not concentrate on need, but instead, to concentrate on the opportunities that are coming up all around us every day. That is what I think.

To get back to timelines: I have talked a lot about it, but for some reason, I feel people are just not grasping it. The thing is that our thought processes need to shift. We need to know that reality is not really causal; it is synchronous.

We need to understand that we are creating our reality. We are changing our timelines, moment to moment, through our emotion-based thoughts. We are not in relationship with a static, causal causeway. No. We are creating, in the moment, our reality. We are choosing our realities in the moment.

They talk about multidimensionality. But I talk about multitemporality … multitiming. In any moment, I can place my Awareness on any of the possibilities that are there. Why not optimize them? Why not optimize the timelines? Any moment that I feel not safe, I optimize … because the optimal timeline is a safe timeline, a happy timeline. It is something that I can appreciate. Any time I want to, I can change to that.

I have mentioned this activation of Light a time or two in the past; I will just run through it one more time. It is very simple. Every time I do not feel safe, or I do not feel I have enough, or I do not feel grateful, I just say …

Spirit to Team!
Optimize timelines!
For the All, through Free Will!

If I want, I can add: I am in service to others. That distinguishes me from folks who are in service to Self.

I used to think that last line is very important, but now I think I will only add it if I need to … if I need to make it clear.

I hope this explains how one can use the tool of appreciation; how one can switch to a new timeline; how one need not be chained to cause and effect; and how one need not be chained to relationships. I hope this helps a little.

We can ease through September, appreciating something or other in every moment.

God bless you all! Take care! Love!

In love, light and joy,
I Am of the Stars

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Link: “Three Cameos: Danger . Oh, Good Lord, the Waters of Life . Trouble,” by Alice B. Clagett, filmed on 22 August 2013; published on 22 August 2013; revised … https://wp.me/p2Rkym-6Dt ..

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Oh My Gosh, He Left Me! . by Alice B. Clagett

Filmed on 19 June 2017; revised and republished on 9 March 2020

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Dear Ones,

Here is a talk on personal empowerment in the areas of romance, marriage, child rearing, joining the military, and choices with regard to education. There is an edited Summary after the video.

VIDEO BY ALICE

SUMMARY OF THE VIDEO

Hello, Dear Ones, It’s Alice. I Am of the Stars.

I have a bit of information on empowerment that I found out just last night. It was highly transformational for me, and I hope it will be of help for you as well, in achieving a sense of empowerment in life, and transforming negative experiences into positive.

This has to do with relationships with other people. I know that sometimes we feel at the effect of things that happen in relationships. For instance, we may deeply love somebody, and that person may decide to leave us. And we may feel at the effect of their decision. For instance, we may feel …

Oh my gosh, he left me!

That feeling, that notion that someone else had the power to make us unhappy, is very disempowering. And it is something that can fly under the radar too.

There is another situation, that is true of young people, I think. The parents of young people may convince them to do something with regard to their career or their education that’s really not what they want to do.

But because their parents are so strong and powerful in their eyes, and they may, for instance, hold the key to finances and so forth when children are young, then children may feel that they must go along with what their parents say. And this, also, is disempowering.

I will give you an example: A child may feel that he or she has to attend a particular school that they do not want to attend. And they may feel forced by their parents to do that. And then in later life they may say …

Oh my gosh, I’ve had to leave all my friends, and to go to this school. And I didn’t like it there. And my parents forced me to do it. They made me unhappy.

And this sometimes happens with young people when they join the military: Either their parents may have been very successful in the military, and want their children to follow in their footsteps; or their parents may not have had the opportunity to join the military … say they had some kind of draft exemption, or like that. And their parents want their children to fulfill that dream that they had, that they were unable to fulfill.

So the child may feel impelled to join the military, even though it is not his desire to do so. And he may find his temperament (or her temperament) is not compatible with military lifestyle, which is at one end of the continuum with independence and interrelationship with other people, that of dependence on other people’s will power.

So the child may not be compatible with the military way of thinking, and he or she may suffer greatly in that situation. And he or she may blame the parents for forcing them into that situation …

I was forced to be unhappy by a decision that someone else made!

This is also sometimes true of young people and marriage. Sometimes it seems to them that their parents force them to marry someone that they do not want to marry, because of social standing, or one-upmanship, or that kind of thing.

Sometimes it is the opposite: Their parents force them not to marry someone that they love; maybe for the same reasons. And then the child feels …

My life has been destroyed! My happiness has forever flown away, because of a decision that someone else made. They’ve ruined my happiness.

You get the idea … This is also true of later life. A person may say …

As a senior citizen, I’m unable to find anyone to love. This or that circumstance in my life causes me not to follow my dreams or my heart. 

All of these things can be solved in this way … and this is what I found out last night. It goes like this … In a relationship, you say …

This person and I decided together to do that thing.

You say it with your whole heart, your whole being. And you change the past. You change the whole tenor of the situation, and all that followed. You say:

This person and I, we decided to do that thing. 

And what happens then … at least, what happened to me … is that I suddenly felt greatly empowered in the situation … Like I had made that choice; I had made that decision. And that the consequences were my own. And that the future was my own.

That I could then be free to create whatever I want, as of right now. So!

In love, light and joy,
I Am of the Stars
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Samskaras: Unfaithfulness in Men . by Alice B. Clagett

Filmed on 27 August 2016; published on 23 October 2016
Location: By the Animas River, in Farmington, New Mexico

  • REVISED BLOG
  • ROUGH DRAFT OF THE BLOG
    • VIDEO BY ALICE
    • SUMMARY OF THE VIDEO
      • Photos by Alice

Dear Ones,

Below are a revised blog, and a rough draft video and edited Summary. I feel that the revised blog is the better written.

REVISED BLOG

This blog is about an often found samskara in the Atlantean Age just now passing, to do with men marrying for a certain reason, with a notion of having sex with many women on the side.

If the wife, on the other hand, remains faithful to her husband, and then finds out about his lack of fidelity, then Soul wounding can result.

Women experience this karmic trap by not being EMF-sensitive enough to know whether their husband’s heart chakra is open and responding to theirs or not … and also, sometimes, through low self-esteem.

A woman who finds herself in such a situation can work on her own self-esteem, and on perfecting her heart energy, and this will change the nature of her relationships, whether with her husband, or with someone new.

Because of the Awakening, people all over Earth are becoming more empathic, and are feeling their own heart energy, as well as that of other people, more clearly. It seems that the women are quicker than the men, during the waves of Awakening, to feel what happens when the actions of their spouse injures their hearts.

Consequently, they ask their husbands to change their behavior, but the spouses may not be ready to do so yet. This can lead to breakups, separations, followed by getting back together at a time when the husband has gotten the downloads for increased empathy and heart sensitivity.

This is where many couples are today: On the brink of never-before-experienced relational intimacy, and much greater fulfillment in their married relationships.

ROUGH DRAFT OF THE BLOG

VIDEO BY ALICE

SUMMARY OF THE VIDEO

Hello, Dear Ones, It’s Alice. I Am of the Stars.

On the topic of samskaras that we are saddled with at birth, I have one for you; this is another one for which I have no solution. But I think a solution is coming up very soon, here on Earth.

This has to do with the notion that many men have, that they will marry a woman for certain means, or certain ends, and then that they will have all the sex they want with all the women in the world, double-oh-seven style anyway. If they marry a woman who is faithful to them … a woman with a good, open heart … what this creates is … You remember that song about a good-hearted woman married to a good-timing man? …

Video: “Waylon Jennings – Good Hearted Woman (from Nashville Rebel),” by Waylon Jennings, 11 January 2019 … https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=skh-Bv_vVC8 ..

That’s it. And the woman’s heart is very open. But every time the man goes out on her there is what feels to me (as an empath) like these women are experiencing shards of glass scrunching together, or jumping out of their hearts. So there is an injury to the heart energy which is central to the human EMF torus.

Eventually what happens is these women finally catch the gentleman in the act, somehow, and then they leave, feeling betrayed. But the truth of the matter is that the reason they get into these relationships is that they are not EMF-sensitive enough to know whether the man’s heart energy is open enough and responding to theirs, or not.

It is pretty easy to tell, because the process of communication is very different with people like that. And often the woman will find that they are absent at times when she needs for them to be there; for instance, on the weekends, or at the time of month when it is most important for her to have sexual relations they may be gone. Evenings they may be working late. In other words, their behavior will be different from that of the husbands of her neighbors, who come home to their children, and spend the evening with her neighbors’ wives, and so forth.

So there are physical clues as well as energetic clues to being in a relationship like that. One of the things that a woman can work on in a situation like that … as most people probably know … is her own self esteem. A woman who has a very positive outlook on life will soon either change that situation somehow, or else find a situation more pertinent to her higher self esteem.

A woman who works on her heart energy field, especially with her husband, will escape from that trap as well … as will he. However, many men in world cultures today see no reason to change this behavior.

The problem that is coming up with the Great Awakening is that all the people are becoming aware of everyone else’s emotions. We are all becoming clairsentient with regard to other people’s emotions … more empathic; much more empathic. We are feeling other people’s emotions as our own, and we are feeling our own heart energy much more strongly than we used to.

So the first thing that a woman who is in sexual relationship begins to notice is how her heart is aching and hurting, to do with some behavior of her husband. She notices it, and she asks him to change. He is not willing to change. And because the men are getting more empathic more slowly than the women on Earth, the denouement is that she will ask him to leave … And he cannot figure it out; he is acting the same as he always did; what is the big deal? He gets very angry about the whole thing.

So then she forgives him. The come back to living together. And the same thing happens again. But this time he starts to feel how the energy of her heart is responding to his actions … how sad she is; how much she cries; how the energy has changed; and what that does to his energy as well.

So that is where we are today right now: Many men are taking their first steps into true intimacy. I pray for us all during this interlude, that it should go as smoothly as possible for everyone concerned, and that everyone should emerge in happy, mutually caring relationships with each other.

In love, light and joy,
I Am of the Stars

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Image: “Tree 1,” by Alice B. Clagett, 27 August 2016, CC BY-SA 4.0

Image: “Tree 1,” by Alice B. Clagett, 27 August 2016, CC BY-SA 4.0

Image: “Tree 2,” by Alice B. Clagett, 27 August 2016, CC BY-SA 4.0

Image: “Tree 2,” by Alice B. Clagett, 27 August 2016, CC BY-SA 4.0

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Subconscious Symbolism: Physical ‘Acting Out’ of Oft-Repeated Figures of Speech . by Alice B. Clagett

Filmed on 17 July 2016; published on 21 July 2016
Previously titled: Unconscious Symbolism: ‘Acting Out’ of Figures of Speech

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    • Metaphor: I need someone to watch my back!
    • Metaphor: I am just to die for!
      • Curse: You will get cancer!
      • Segue: ‘Black Widow’ or ‘Black Widower’.
    • On Bringing Subconscious Metaphors to the Light of Conscious Awareness

Dear Ones,

This video is about two figures of speech, and how the unconscious mind interprets them in physical terms …

There is an edited Summary after the video …

VIDEO BY ALICE

SUMMARY OF THE VIDEO

Hello, Dear Ones, It’s Alice. I Am of the Stars.

I have two metaphors about which to talk to you, along the lines of the unconscious mind and its interpretation of metaphors.

Metaphor: I need someone to watch my back!

The first one has to do with the saying: I need someone to watch my back! This metaphor, in this case, is spoken by a man. I have a feeling it would work for a woman too. It would be spoken by a man who is in relationship … or it could be spoken by a woman who is in relationship. Their unconscious mind … their lower triangle, their ‘Lower Mental Body,’ as some say … is always saying: I need someone to watch my back! And they are anticipating that their partner will do that for them.

This plays out in a physical way, in real life, because the unconscious mind and the involuntary nervous system are very physical in their interpretation of things. After all, they have to do with the neurons in the viscera … [points to abdomen] … in the digestive organs: the stomach, liver, gall bladder, and intestines. So you can anticipate that these sorts of neurons will be very physical in their representation and understanding of reality.

I need someone to watch my back! … And you are anticipating that your partner will do that for you. In real life, what very frequently will happen is that they will leave from a situation before you do. For instance, if you are at a party, they might want to arrive in a separate car, and leave in advance of you … the idea being that you will ‘watch their back’ as they walk out … and the same, for instance, if you are out shopping, or if you are walking around in the wilderness; you will find that your partner, who is playing out this metaphor in an unconscious way, will be always walking off ahead of you, so that you can see their back with your eyes. In other words, in a physical sense, you will be ‘watching their back’.

Metaphor: I am just to die for!

In the end of a relationship … as that time comes round … they will want to be the first to suggest it, and the first to leave. So that is how that plays out.

I have one other metaphor for you. This could be for a man or a woman who is in relationship. The metaphor that they are acting out, through their unconscious minds, is: They figure they are really good-looking, and they say: I am just to die for!

You know that term? It is a term in common use. It just means ‘I am really good-looking. Ladies would lay down their lives for me.’ And that is how the relationship can play out, if a person is constantly processing, in their involuntary nervous system, the metaphor: I am just to die for! I am to die for! 

Curse: You will get cancer! Chance of And so it will turn out, somehow, that either through unconscious suggestion … like: You will get cancer! (this is quite common) … when a man is processing hostility against his wife, he is likely to induce cancer in her.

It may work in the other way too, quite likely: If a woman is really angry with a man, I think that’s possible. This metaphor ‘I am to die for’ adds umph to it. The idea behind it is that I am totally good-looking (whether I am a man or a woman). And this other person is dust before my feet. They might as well be dead; they are that low! [laughs]

Segue: ‘Black Widow’ or ‘Black Widower’. It can happen, either through unconscious suggestion, or through a physical act such as poisoning or shooting … generally accompanied with a great deal of subterfuge … as in the instance of a ‘black widow’, or a ‘black widower’ … where they go on from one relationship to the next, killing their spouse in some way. And this is because of the large, unconscious component, to do with following up on the metaphor ‘I’m to die for’.

On Bringing Subconscious Metaphors to the Light of Conscious Awareness

I do not know what to say except, if you have noticed, through the clair chat, that your partner is doing one of these things, you can bring this up. Bring it to the conscious mind. Bring it to the light of Awareness, and see what happens next.

As we become conscious of the metaphors that rule us … that rule our unconscious minds and subconscious minds … those metaphors lose their grip on our lives and our karma. Our lives become more dharmic then.

That’s all for now. I will talk to everyone later. You all take care.

In love, light and joy,
I Am of the Stars
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Allurement: Angling for Love . by Alice B. Clagett

Published on 9 July 2013; revised
Previously titled: Angling for Love

  • ALLUREMENT: ON USING LOVE AS A LURE
  • ON ‘DOING’ LOVE
  • ON FALLING IN LOVE
  • ON FEIGNING ROMANTIC LOVE
  • FOR WOMEN: ON MISTAKING A MAN’S ONE NIGHT STAND FOR TRUE ROMANCE
  • FOR MEN: ON MISTAKING A WOMAN’S FINANCIAL INSECURITY FOR TRUE ROMANCE
  • FOR MEN: ON BEING ATTACHED TO A WOMAN WHO LIKES TWO MEN

Dear Ones,

I am writing this post for an acquaintance of mine, who just cannot locate the politeness to accept me as I am. Do you not hate it when folks try to make you over in their image? I do, for sure.

I ran across this in an article on deep-sea female angler fish recently …

There are anglerfish living deep in the ocean. It is dark down there, and the females have bioluminescent ‘lures’ attractive to that which they wish to eat. These ‘lures’ also attract male anglerfish. Once they find a mate, they hold onto her for life …

Image: Female anglerfish with a prominent ‘lure’ … http://biologybiozine.com/wp-content/uploads/2015/07/deepseaanglerfish2.jpg ..

Link: “An Unusual Fish that Lives Deep in the Ocean,” in Biozine, 27 February 2011 …  biologybiozine.com/2011/02/27/an-unusual-fish-that-lives-deep-in-the-ocean/182/ ..

ALLUREMENT: ON USING LOVE AS A LURE

That reminded me of how we humans sometimes use Love as a Lure. I’m speaking of the outward-pouring of love from the heart chakra, not the neutral, unconditional love characteristic of the deep inner heart, the hridaya.

ON ‘DOING’ LOVE

This outward-pouring love is what you might call ‘doing’ love. I’m ‘doing’ love to someone else. And I’ve noticed, when this happens, I’m ‘doing’ it for a reason. Invariably ‘to do’ with my lower chakras. I ‘want’ security. I ‘need’ sex. I ‘have’ to control someone. And there you have it. Love in the service of the Lower Triangle (the first three chakras old style: the basal chakra, sexual chakra, and navel point).

ON FALLING IN LOVE

So then, how does the play unfold? ‘I’ ‘love’ ‘you’! WAY SO. ‘You’ ‘love’ ‘me’! WOW. We’re ‘in love’. We get married. And then, onto our stage march insecurity, sexual addiction, greed, possessiveness, jealousy, etc etc and OUT OUT OUT goes the flame of love. o sigh.

ON FEIGNING ROMANTIC LOVE

OR, heaven forfend, we may consciously use the Love Lure to attach a person to us. And then, The Games Begin. Happens often with men … I love you!  … Wedding bells. And then it is the Everyday Ed thing … sex on demand. And do the housework. Get the abortion. Go to work to help pay the mortgage.

FOR WOMEN: ON MISTAKING A MAN’S ONE NIGHT STAND FOR TRUE ROMANCE

OR, and this is a man or woman thing: I love you! … O wow!  … and: Oops! One night stand.
AND then sometimes, there is a sequel: Oops! Pregnant! Who was that masked marauder, anyway?

FOR MEN: ON MISTAKING A WOMAN’S FINANCIAL INSECURITY FOR TRUE ROMANCE

But sometimes it is a woman thing. I love you! … Wedding bells. Uh oh, she really just wants my money. Or my house. Or to destroy my heart utterly.

FOR MEN: ON BEING ATTACHED TO A WOMAN WHO LIKES TWO MEN

Here is an interesting picture: a female deep-sea angler fish (the big fish in the picture). Using her love Light (which dangles from the front of her head) she has lured in two male angler fish. They are a lot smaller than she is. You can see them in the picture, stuck there next to her tail. For life? Guess so. This picture reminds me vividly of a woman I met once. Two men not sufficing, she was angling for a woman lover too.

Image: Female anglerfish with two males attached to her … http://biologybiozine.com/wp-content/uploads/2015/07/deepseaanglerfish.jpg ..

Dear Lord! Save me! I can definitely see the al-Lure of Unconditional Love.

In love, light and joy,
I Am of the Stars

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