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Oh My Gosh, He Left Me! . by Alice B. Clagett

Filmed on 19 June 2017; revised and republished on 9 March 2020

  • VIDEO BY ALICE
  • SUMMARY OF THE VIDEO

Dear Ones,

Here is a talk on personal empowerment in the areas of romance, marriage, child rearing, joining the military, and choices with regard to education. There is an edited Summary after the video.

VIDEO BY ALICE

SUMMARY OF THE VIDEO

Hello, Dear Ones, It’s Alice. I Am of the Stars.

I have a bit of information on empowerment that I found out just last night. It was highly transformational for me, and I hope it will be of help for you as well, in achieving a sense of empowerment in life, and transforming negative experiences into positive.

This has to do with relationships with other people. I know that sometimes we feel at the effect of things that happen in relationships. For instance, we may deeply love somebody, and that person may decide to leave us. And we may feel at the effect of their decision. For instance, we may feel …

Oh my gosh, he left me!

That feeling, that notion that someone else had the power to make us unhappy, is very disempowering. And it is something that can fly under the radar too.

There is another situation, that is true of young people, I think. The parents of young people may convince them to do something with regard to their career or their education that’s really not what they want to do.

But because their parents are so strong and powerful in their eyes, and they may, for instance, hold the key to finances and so forth when children are young, then children may feel that they must go along with what their parents say. And this, also, is disempowering.

I will give you an example: A child may feel that he or she has to attend a particular school that they do not want to attend. And they may feel forced by their parents to do that. And then in later life they may say …

Oh my gosh, I’ve had to leave all my friends, and to go to this school. And I didn’t like it there. And my parents forced me to do it. They made me unhappy.

And this sometimes happens with young people when they join the military: Either their parents may have been very successful in the military, and want their children to follow in their footsteps; or their parents may not have had the opportunity to join the military … say they had some kind of draft exemption, or like that. And their parents want their children to fulfill that dream that they had, that they were unable to fulfill.

So the child may feel impelled to join the military, even though it is not his desire to do so. And he may find his temperament (or her temperament) is not compatible with military lifestyle, which is at one end of the continuum with independence and interrelationship with other people, that of dependence on other people’s will power.

So the child may not be compatible with the military way of thinking, and he or she may suffer greatly in that situation. And he or she may blame the parents for forcing them into that situation …

I was forced to be unhappy by a decision that someone else made!

This is also sometimes true of young people and marriage. Sometimes it seems to them that their parents force them to marry someone that they do not want to marry, because of social standing, or one-upmanship, or that kind of thing.

Sometimes it is the opposite: Their parents force them not to marry someone that they love; maybe for the same reasons. And then the child feels …

My life has been destroyed! My happiness has forever flown away, because of a decision that someone else made. They’ve ruined my happiness.

You get the idea … This is also true of later life. A person may say …

As a senior citizen, I’m unable to find anyone to love. This or that circumstance in my life causes me not to follow my dreams or my heart. 

All of these things can be solved in this way … and this is what I found out last night. It goes like this … In a relationship, you say …

This person and I decided together to do that thing.

You say it with your whole heart, your whole being. And you change the past. You change the whole tenor of the situation, and all that followed. You say:

This person and I, we decided to do that thing. 

And what happens then … at least, what happened to me … is that I suddenly felt greatly empowered in the situation … Like I had made that choice; I had made that decision. And that the consequences were my own. And that the future was my own.

That I could then be free to create whatever I want, as of right now. So!

In love, light and joy,
I Am of the Stars
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The US Economy . Co-creating the American Dream . by Alice B. Clagett

Filmed on 19 February 2016; published on 23 February 2016

  • VIDEO BY ALICE
  • SUMMARY OF THE VIDEO
    • Development Opportunity: Abandoned Planned Subdivision 40 Miles South of Barstow
    • Route 66 Redevelopment and Resettlement Opportunities
      • Scenes from Route 66, January 2016
    • Not Covered in the News: The Great Slowdown That Is Taking Place in the American Economy
    • Inflation, Perhaps Not Fully Represented in Changes in the Consumer Price Index (CPI)
    • Call to Action: Let Congress Consider How to Help Middle America Achieve the American Dream
    • Would a Changeup to Sustainable Living Negatively or Positively Affect Quality of Life in America?
    • Would Less Ownership of Electronics Abate Neighborhood Theft?
    • What Can We Do to Make America a Better Place to Live?
  • MORE INFORMATION
    • Sustainable Living
    • Correlation of Handhelds with Child Crime
    • Consumer Price Index ‘Spin’
    • Mass Media Coverage of Relatively Unimportant News
    • Shall We Abate Factors Giving Rise to Serial Killing, So As to Create the Opposite Effect?

Dear Ones,

Here are my thoughts on the United States economy, the American Dream, and things we as a community of humankind might think of working on together for ourselves and for the sake of our children.

Local economies, middle America, small business. Prices and the Consumer Price Index (CPI). How can we have safe places, good businesses, good schools, environments where the American ideals are looked up to?

How can folks in our communities support each other in grassroots ways?

What would be the advantage of smaller homes, electronics-free homes, and sustainable living?

The healing effect of interacting with the Great Outdoors, with church, and with friends.

How can we help our children grow into the ideals of Democratic living that were envisioned when the Constitution was written?

The video is followed by an edited Summary …

VIDEO BY ALICE

SUMMARY OF THE VIDEO

Hello, Dear Ones, It’s Alice. I Am of the Stars.

I have something to say about the United States right now, and the economy, that really struck me as I traveled about. I only have the video of this place, but I will talk a little about some other places I visited too.

Development Opportunity: Abandoned Planned Subdivision 40 Miles South of Barstow

Right now I am maybe 40 miles south of Barstow. It is desert land. There are mountains here; and I expect, if you live higher up on the mountains, it is cooler in the middle of the summer. It is pretty barren; I will show you. [Shows a curbed, greystone-paved road in the desert.]

You will notice these curbs here in the middle of the desert. There was a road here; this is greystone in the middle. or greystone mixed with granite. And then there was this pretty fancy curb, going along here.

And off in the distance there are, probably water pipes or sewer pipes? … And more of them [piled on the sand] all around here.

And there was this giant subdivision apparently planned here, some time ago. [Shows a planting of trees in the desert.] And you will notice these trees here seem to be part of the plantation that took place, in addition to the curbs and the roads that were set up.

And those trees are still alive; but there were quite a few palm trees that just did not make it. This was a little forest of palm trees that did not make it … See here? [Shows dead palm trees.]

And over here, on the other side, this was the main road into the planned subdivision … [Shows majestically wide, greystone-paved road] … and there are plantings of palm trees all along it. I thought maybe some were still alive, but [zooms to the top of one palm tree] I think maybe they passed on for lack of water.

I just came in the entrance road. Then I took a look at the buildings over here. There are a few buildings … [shows buildings, with graffiti on their outer walls] … all deserted, and then I guess there is a school over there, which is in excellent repair … a good-looking school, on the other side of the [paved] road [outside the subdivision].

But basically, what we have here is somebody’s dream … one person’s American dream. He probably put a lot of money into it … probably bought the land for not much money, then arranged for this build-out … what do you call it, when you get the curbs and the roads in? …. Also, I saw drainage ditches for water to flow through in the wet season.

So they planned for water drainage too, and probably had plans for all the utilities, for people they hoped would buy homes here.

But the few buildings that were on the property are just to wrack and ruin right now. And then this other building over here … [shows a one-story, smallish building] … it had a tile roof. Maybe it was a sales office? … The tiles are all down. Maybe somebody is using them to build a new house, or is demolishing that place? I do not know.

Route 66 Redevelopment and Resettlement Opportunities

So, a little earlier this winter, I was travelling down Route 66. You know Route 66 … the song about that from long ago, and how you get your kicks on Route 66?

Video:  “Rolling Stones – Route 66 1976.” by Hairyblues, 24 march 2014 … https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BE36QIwwkOc ..

It used to be the main thoroughfare that people used … one of them … from the East to the West, in the United States.

And then later, the superhighways were built, East to West, and all the businesses along Route 66 languished because of it … because most of the traffic would bypass Route 66 and go down these very fast superhighways instead.

But, if you would really like an enjoyable trip through America, I would suggest taking what remains of Route 66, if possible, because it is much more scenic.

One thing I noticed about Route 66 was that it was a little like this [the abandoned planned subdivision]: There were just so many buildings that were boarded up, or half-way demolished or deserted. Or maybe one person would be living in a motel or hotel that used to see a thriving business.

There were some businesses that would cater to the local population, that were open and doing ok. But that was the minority of businesses in those places.

Scenes from Route 66, January 2016. [The below photos are not in the video.]

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Image: “Along Route 66 1,” by Alice B. Clagett, January 2016, CC BY-SA 4.0

Image: “Along Route 66 1,” by Alice B. Clagett, January 2016, CC BY-SA 4.0

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Image: “Along Route 66 2,” by Alice B. Clagett, January 2016, CC BY-SA 4.0

Image: “Along Route 66 2,” by Alice B. Clagett, January 2016, CC BY-SA 4.0

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Image: “Along Route 66 3,” by Alice B. Clagett, January 2016, CC BY-SA 4.0

Image: “Along Route 66 3,” by Alice B. Clagett, January 2016, CC BY-SA 4.0

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Image: “Along Route 66 4,” by Alice B. Clagett, January 2016, CC BY-SA 4.0

Image: “Along Route 66 4,” by Alice B. Clagett, January 2016, CC BY-SA 4.0

Not Covered in the News: The Great Slowdown That Is Taking Place in the American Economy

What I got, in those areas, is that the slow-down in the economy in the United States is pretty big … and that there are other issues that may be covered in the news, that are really not relevant to our lives, as Americans, that are taking up the spot, on the news, that should be covered by discussion of what we should do about the local economies.  What should we do. to help Middle America rise to meet its financial needs? What, in the way of business aid? What, in the way of helping people accomplish their dreams in America? You know?

Inflation, Perhaps Not Fully Represented in Changes in the Consumer Price Index (CPI)

And the other thing that I have been noticing lately, whenever I go to a store, is that the prices are … I do not know what has happened, in the last few years, with regard to prices … It is phenomenal, really, how much prices have risen. At least, so it seems to me. I do not know what the cause of it is. It seems to me, too, that this increase in the cost of goods is not fully represented in changes in the consumer price index (the CPI).

Call to Action: Let Congress Consider How to Help Middle America Achieve the American Dream

  • the failure of businesses, in all but the large cities, it seems,
  • and the very greatly increased price of goods, which I do not find that much substantiation for, in the Consumer Price Index,

… these two things add up to economic difficulties in the United States that are not being squarely and honestly faced, I feel.

And I hope, during the coming year, that Congress has a chance to look at all this, and hear the stories of Americans, and rise to the aid of the average person, who needs a safe place and a good business, good schools, to keep his or her family safe, and to let them grow up in an environment where the American ideals are cherished and espoused and looked up to … rather than a crime-ridden place that is full of bad examples of the way to Wisdom and Love and Light … the kind of place where a family can feel that their lives are not threatened, as they go about their daily activities.

But instead, the community looks, one family to the next family, for support and understanding and assistance in grassroots growing of local businesses, and sustainable living. What do you say?

Would a Changeup to Sustainable Living Negatively or Positively Affect Quality of Life in America?

Suppose we had much smaller houses, with a lot more space around them … Would not that be easier to heat and to keep cool in the summertime? Would not the prices of utilities be lower? And outside, the children could be playing, right? Would not that be cool?

Would Less Ownership of Electronics Abate Neighborhood Theft?

And the other thing I am thinking is that, the question might be raised … family to family … Whether we really need the electronics that are so sought after by the break-in experts, and the thieves, and so forth. What would happen, if our family did without television sets and computers and handhelds, and so forth? How would our quality of life be affected? Would it be worse, or would it be better? Would we be stronger in our ethics and our values with, or without, the virtual reality?

I made up my own mind about this long ago, and decided I did not really want television in my life. I did not want that kind of entertainment; that my entertainment would be the Great Outdoors, and church, and friends … playing dominoes, and so forth.

What Can We Do to Make America a Better Place to Live?

My thought is: What can we all do, to make America a better place to live? More safe for our children? And what can we do to help our children grow into the ideals of democratic living that were envisioned when the Constitution was written? That is what I think. We have a lot of questions to answer right now.

You all, take care. I love you lots. I wish you great abundance, and prosperity, and happiness … each and every one.

In love, light and joy,
I Am of the Stars

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MORE INFORMATION

Sustainable Living. For many decades of wisdom regarding sustainable living, see …

Link: “Mother Earth News” … http://www.motherearthnews.com/ ..

Correlation of Handhelds with Child Crime. There are quite a few articles substantiating the relationship between handhelds and child crime. Here is one:

Link: “A Pediatric Therapist Wants All Handhelds to Be Banned for Children Until Age 12,” by Katherine Martinko(@feistyredhair), 7 January, 2015 … http://www.treehugger.com/family/pediatric-therapist-wants-all-handheld-devices-be-banned-children-until-age-12.html ..

Consumer Price Index ‘Spin’. Here’s what ‘spin’ can do to inflation reporting: Consumer Price Index …

Link: “Consumer Price Index,” by the Bureau of Labor Statistics, United States Department of Labor … http://www.bls.gov/cpi/ ..

Mass Media Coverage of Relatively Unimportant News. Here’s the ‘news’ mass media considers important …

Link: “CNN” … http://www.cnn.com/ ..

Shall We Abate Factors Giving Rise to Serial Killing, So As to Create the Opposite Effect? Here is an analysis of the factors giving rise to the modern phenomenon of serial killing. This list might be deconstructed with a view to co-creating the opposite reality …

Link: “Modern Serial Killers, by Kevin D. Haggerty1 , 13 August 2009, http://cmc.sagepub.com/content/5/2/168.short?rss=1&ssource=mfr ..

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